Tuesday, March 31, 2020

Love in the Time of Corona

Wow, what a time to be alive! is all I keep thinking.

I woke at 5:30am and so using the quiet space to update this blog. Found I was mentally ready to write again and decided to just do it ASAP before diving back in to Twitter to watch the world implode (and as I said on the other social network, Twitter is really, really good right now if you have curated your feed with smart friends and co-workers, politicians, journalists, pithy pundits, celebrities, and sports figures you respect. Lots of trenchant commentary and perspectives at a time NO one knows what the hell is really gonna happen = hard-hitting content).

First of all, I’m so very sorry we could not pull off Doug’s Big Fat Memorial as planned for April 11. As soon as I started sending out save-the-dates, it became clear that this virus was going to be virulent enough to keep it from coming off. My hope is that we will be able to still hold it in the grand style Doug really wanted, and the pent up energy to connect with each other by then will make it even more meaningful. I’ll re-announce it here whenever the fuck things stabilize enough to even plan this kind of party.

Secondly, yeah, dealing with implacable virus precautions + paranoia and extreme social isolation is a double serving of a drippy, sloppy shit sandwich and turns our world upside down again. All the sweet, warm check-ins from so many of you mean a lot. And we are ok! Clara and I are getting along so amazingly well and really partnering on living this new life in lockdown- and that is what matters to me most right now. That, and trying to keep us both healthy. If I even *think* about what happens if one of us has to quarantine from the other, I break down. I am already so emotionally weak. On the brighter side, wanted to share...

Things that are helping:
  • Getting double the amount of “ILY”s from Clara any time day or night and over SMS. Melts me.
  • Taking yoga and pilates classes over Zoom that my amazing studio Innerstellar offers (lemme know if you wanna join and may be able to get you a free pass). Clara often joins me, too!
  • Grating ginger root (a big piece), juicing it from a coffee filter into a shot glass. Then squeezing one lime into that glass. Shake a bunch of cayenne in there and a squirt of maple syrup to soften the sour up and BAM! you feel immunized. This is a morningtime activity.
  • Doing the hardcore, 30 minute power walk with Clara in the hills right outside our door. We pass no one!
  • Heating up and eating some of the super tasty curries and rice dishes that Yomi made and froze for us during his last trip over in December.


  • Playing with legos with Clara. She's totally into it with those damn big acrylic nails its wild to watch!
  • Having long conversations on the phone for check-ins with friends vs. the typical string of texts.
  • Taking long, bath-bombed tubs with candles all around.
  • Listening to two Boards of Canada-inspired playlists on Spotify that really bring the heartbeat down. I mean, mood-changing stuff! This is one Timmmii made and then Peter was inspired to do one, too. Both are really long to get your groove on. (And best with headphones.)
  • Going on long, fast drives over the bridges and through our cities. The streets are hauntingly empty.
  • Floofing the house with flowers which bring so much sensual pleasure. Less of that now with reduced grocery shopping.


Please tell me some of the things that are keeping you all kool.

And sending all the love and luck out to each of you as we go through this monumental and difficult time.


-Candace


Monday, March 9, 2020

Doug's Big Fat Memorial

DISCLAIMER: Listening to Check your Head pretty loud in the house so I am in a mood....

It seems totally appropriate to pen the first post since the last one by announcing the party to you all.
It took some doing, but I found the perfect big ass indoor/outdoor warehouse space to throw a proper gathering for all you motherfuckers to celebrate Doug Fuller in the style we both discussed. All stops are being yanked out for this one, friends. Post-Ghostship & general real estate mayhem, this was no small feat. Big thanks to Yomi and Mr. Tom of We Are From Dust for hooking up the location. And major props to the design genius Catie Magee (aka Tits Magee) for the above design which will brand this night for years to come.

And you are all invited! In order to get succinct, yet amusing updates on what is gonna go down, you will need to RSVP if you can make it. I know it is Easter and that this fucked up virus is circulating - so what better time to celebrate life? Fine to bring an SO but please indicate this when responding. We will have security and greeters due to the location, so capturing an accurate guestlist is hella impt. Expect a rated R/XXX event. Thanks for not referring to this on any lists/sosh meeds.

The Deets

When: Saturday, April 11th
Where: China Basin area in San Francisco (addy to come closer to)
Time: 9pm till 3am
What: Variety Show of Shenanigans and Performances fueled by Hand-Shaken Cocktails & Light Southern Fare (ha)
Attire: Fancy AF or Klown Black Tie and we will have a coat check
Bring: Item for the Doug Altar, flask with your fave elixir in it, good intentions
Plan: NOT to drive. Please Lyft. #deleteuber Parking sux & it's just safer
RSVP: Please email visit.klowntown@gmail.com to request an invite and include addy for your SO. Formal invites to go out in a week or so.

This event will be as multifaceted as Doug's personality was and it is basically already 80% planned- has come together rapidly and naturally. Cameron aka Teiwaz is helping me project manage it, so please be in touch with him if you have big ideas.

ALSO! I am thinking of having a "Happy Hour Yard Sale" of some of Doug's things on Friday night before the party. He was a crazy collector of all sorts of things: silk ties, eclectic LPs, ceramic clowns, beads he made necklaces from, tons of quilting fabrics, beer brewing equipment, and on and on.  I will be keeping lots of stuff for Clara who will want it when she is older, but reallly want to release the stuff into the community for reasonable $$$. All proceeds will go to the 529 education account I just set up for Clara. Stay tuned for more info on this...

More and other thoughts to come.....

Big love to you all-
Candace

PS: Wash your hands, wipe shit down and breathe.